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Have you ever felt like you were all alone, and you were desperate not knowing what to do or which way to turn? Loneliness is such a terrible experience. We can be going through life seemingly doing just fine; circumstances change, and we find ourselves all alone or at least feeling as if we are. Family can let you down, and make you feel like they don't love you. Friends can turn their back on you in a time of need. There are many circumstances in life causing people to feel like you are all alone.
Military people found out a long time ago how the best way to get someone to talk isn't torture. Its isolation and loneliness. Put someone in isolation for a long time, and they will usually talk and tell you anything you want them to tell.
You can have circumstances in your life you don't feel as if you can tell anyone maybe because you are ashamed, or maybe because you don't have anyone you trust to keep it quiet. Circumstance like these can make you feel alone, even in a crowd.
I have a question I want to ask and then answer. Can Christians feel alone? I can understand people who don't know Christ feeling alone, but what about Christians? Why would Christians ever feel alone?
Well, Christians are not immune to the circumstances of life. Things sometimes happen we may not understand and give us feelings like anyone else, so yes. Christians can feel alone.
This being said; I have good news for all us Christians! When we get those feelings of loneliness we don't have to keep them.
Listen to this scripture.
Hebrews 13:5-6 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I WILL NEVER LEAVE THEE, NOR FORSAKE THEE. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.
Did you hear that! Jesus said he would never leave us, nor forsake us! So when we have those feelings of loneliness, we don't have to keep them! He will NEVER leave us! We don't have to accept these FEELINGS because this is all they are, just feelings, not the truth. I'm not saying they are not true feelings. I'm saying we don't have to hang onto them. They can be devastating robbing us of our joy and peace, but just remember, they are just feeling, not the truth. The truth is that Jesus is always with us! When these things hit us, we need to turn to the truth of the Word, not giving into the loneliness.
I know a little bit about feeling alone. When I was 18 years old and just graduated from High School, my dad was very concerned about what I was going to do for a living. We lived in a small town in Arkansas, and there wasn't much opportunity for work there. He heard about a railroad school in Dallas Texas. In their advertisement, they said they would help you find a job. He thought this would be great for me. We were very poor, but he scratched together all the money he could, $80.00, and on a nice Sunday morning my parents took me to Dallas. We found a boarding house, with two meals a day, for $15.00 a week. Well, it left me $65.00. I knew I would have to pay the school $40.00 as soon as I arrived the next day on Monday. This left $25.00 for the remainder of the week and to pay the next weeks rent. I had no car. My dad took me to the street in front of the boarding house and showed me the bus stop sign. He said come out here in the morning, and the bus will stop and you get on. When you arrive downtown get off at the building I showed you, where the school is, and when you go in pay them $40.00. Tell them you need a job. My parents got in the car, pulled off, and left me standing out in the yard. Now if you want to talk about feeling alone, I stood there seeing them drive off, and feeling like I was so lost and so alone. I didn't know a soul there in the big city. I had no way to go anywhere except by bus or by walking. They left me with almost no money and no job. I was raised in the church, but I had not surrendered my life to God at this time, so I didn't have the promise of Jesus being with me.
Well, God knew what he was doing, I had nowhere else to turn, so I turned to God. I knelt down by my bed that night in the boarding house and ask Jesus to come into my life. I promised him I would serve him the rest of my days. I walked around the neighborhood during the week and found an Assembly of God Church. The next Sunday I walked there and went to the alter to make a public statement about my conversion. The school worked out. I got a job. I met Shelia and fell in love. We are living happily ever after! Yes, I did feel lonely at times afterwards, but I knew it was just a feeling. I knew Jesus was with me. See, we go over here, get into our feelings and just stay over here. Or, we can go over there to the other side and get in the word and stand on the word. The word will make us free. The word tells us we have Jesus with us all the time, but it also tells us that we have a great cloud of witness who we can look to as support for our belief in Jesus.
Hebrews 12:1-2 Wherefore seeing we also are COMPASSED ABOUT WITH SO GREAT A CLOUD OF WITNESSES, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which does so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Looking to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
We are not alone! We are compassed about! Are you going to go over here and allow your feeling to stay, or are you going to go over to the other side and stand on the word?
We have the Church. It stands with us. We are not alone!
Ephesians 4:26 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor: for WE ARE MEMBERS ONE OF ANOTHER.
We are not alone! The word tells us we are members one of another. We are the body of Christ. We are the Church! We are overcomers! We don't have to allow feelings, as bad as they are, to hold us back from having joy and peace. Jesus said he left his peace with us. We can go over to the feelings, or we can go to the other side and stand on the word!
Hebrews 1:13-14 But to which of the angels said he at any time, Sit on my right hand, until I make thine enemies thy footstool? Are they not all ministering spirits, sent forth to minister for them who shall be heirs of salvation?
When we are Christians, we have the angels around us, ministering to us. We are not alone. The word of God is a firm foundation we can stand on when the storms of life hit us.
Can you imagine how alone Jesus must have felt when he went to pray just before his crucifixion and his closest friends went to sleep. Jesus was left all alone. He asked them to pray, but they slept. He knew they would desert him, but he went through with dying for us! He knew his Father was with him. However, he had a human side. I feel sure he had the natural human feelings of being alone. Peter, the leader of the apostles, denied him three times, and Jesus knew he would. However, Jesus was willing to endure the loneliness because of his love for us. Then, the ultimate loneliness anyone could face happened. Jesus was on the cross, and he called out to the Father.
Mark 15:33-34. And when the sixth hour was come, there was darkness over the whole land until the ninth hour. 34And at the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachthani? Which is, being interpreted, MY GOD, MY GOD, WHY HAST THOU FORSAKEN ME?
Can you imagine the feeling of loneliness? The Father forsaking him? Jesus was willing to face the ultimate loneliness so, we will never need to! He did it so he could come into our heart and be with us always! He could have called the angels to come take him down from the cross as he hung there all alone, but he didn't, so that we could have Jesus in our hearts and we could have the angels around us, helping us, and letting us know that we are not alone.
So, we know, from the scriptures:
1. We have Jesus with us all the time, and he knows about loneliness.
2. We have a cloud of witnesses behind us.
3. We have the Church supporting us.
4. We have the angels working for us.
These scriptures tell us we as Christians do not need to allow these feelings come, to stay, and drag us down. We don't have to stay with the feelings. We can go to the word, stand on the word, and know the truth of the word will make us free!
If there is anyone here today, that doesn't know Jesus, and you don't have him in your heart, you probably feel loneliness right now. You are separated from your creator. I know, I have been exactly where you are now - no peace and no joy in life. Won't you make a commitment to him right now? Do it right where you are sitting. If you will, you will have the comfort of joy and peace Jesus brings. When these feelings come upon you and you see the lightning flash and hear the thunder roar from the storms of life, as the song says, you will not be alone. You will have the one who loves you more than anyone else living in your heart. He's always watching out for you and using all of his riches and resources to help you. He proved he loves you and wants what is best for you. He suffered the ultimate pain of loneliness when the Father turned away. He faced it. Jesus took our sins upon himself. Now the Father, who is Holy, will never turn away from us. That is perfect love. Let's pray.